The RCE Governance Group is continually exploring a vital question:
“How do we get better at making decisions together?”
As we practice sociocracy and build our community, we’ve noticed that differences in perspectives sometimes make decision-making more challenging. This spring, a question arose: How might we better support one another when we experience differences, tensions, or moments when we don’t immediately see things the same way?
As we explored approaches from Nonviolent Communication and Transformative Communication, we discovered something surprising: perhaps we could begin by changing the way we talk about these moments.
What if we removed the word “conflict” from our community vocabulary?
We wondered whether the word itself sometimes carries assumptions of opposition, judgment, or the idea that someone must be right and someone else must be wrong. What if, instead, we used language that reflected a more neutral and curious understanding of the inevitable differences that arise whenever people live, work, and create together?
We began brainstorming new possibilities:
– An opportunity for growth and learning
– A growth engine
– A divergence of perspectives or beliefs
– A challenge to embrace
– A moment for reflection and understanding
– An invitation for dialogue and connection
– A catalyst for change and transformation
– An opportunity to deepen understanding, build empathy, and strengthen trust
We explored how this idea connects with sociocratic principles and found language that resonated:
Consistent with sociocratic principles, RCE members recognize that differences and disagreements are valuable sources of information. Through deep listening, curiosity, and compassionate communication, members are supported in transforming differences into opportunities for learning, connection, and solutions that better serve the community’s shared aims.
As we played with this new way of thinking, something shifted. We felt a sense of lightness and possibility. Perhaps changing our language could help us change our experience—opening the door to truly transformative communication.
We imagined the conversations that might one day happen among our forested pathways and shared spaces:
“Ahh! A chance for transformative communication!”
“Looks like we’re having a bridge moment.”
“Here’s a chance for a connection practice.”
“Sounds like a growth-edge conversation.”
“Maybe this wants a little compassionate inquiry.”
“Ah—a weaving moment.”
“This feels like a difference dialogue.”
“We’re friends working together to solve problems. Let’s use our RCE Bandaid Process!”
As summer unfolds and our residences begin to rise, the Governance Group is happily experimenting with this evolving vocabulary and creating opportunities to bring Transformative Communication into our everyday culture. We’re also planning Sociocracy Snacks—short, engaging opportunities to explore these practices together.
Together, we can continue building a community where people and Nature thrive in relationship.
Join us!
– Regina Reiter, Explorer











